I’m a self-care advocate. I try to practice self-care (in one way or another) every day. In a time when hustlin’ until the wheels fall off is championed and being a workaholic is often deemed the way to success, I believe in taking care of self, first. But let’s be honest, most of the time self-care finds itself penciled in… at the bottom of your to-do list. Sound familiar?
The idea of being present in the moment and intentionally enjoying your life sounds good, right? The picture-perfect vision of you being focused on your goals, manifesting your dream life, and constantly improving… is how we all envision the ideal scenario for our lives. While it’s clear that it’s the most beneficial way to live, many of us still struggle with finding our way.
Sometimes what’s holding you back from the life you desire is something you will never be able to change… the past.
I used to speak about the worst-case scenario… and say I was being a realist. Rationalizing to myself that I was preparing for what might be…
… just in case.
It’s easy to think that we’re guarding ourselves against disappointment by only speaking to what we think will happen… what we have convinced ourselves to be the worst possible outcome.
But that wasn’t the case at all.
Girl, motivate yourself!
A few weeks ago, I was feeling a little out of sorts. Let’s be honest, I was all over the place – busy ‘doing’ things – but with no true rhyme or reason, other than to fulfill an immediate need. You know that “let me get this done because I’m on deadline” attitude… I had it.
I desperately needed to get back on track. But I couldn’t seem to pull it together.
So, I did what most of us do, I started looking for external motivation – watching YouTube videos, reading books from those well-tailored book lists, trolling my favorite Instagrammers InstaStories and Lives – turned out to be a major #fail.
None of what I was doing was dealing with the root cause – I needed to motivate my damn self.
The 6 Step Mental Detox
Life is busy. Overwhelming even… sometimes to the point that we can find ourselves so intertwined with responsibilities, appointments, housework, and bills – that we start to lose our own identity. We begin to believe that we are currently experiencing the sum total of what life has to offer, and that’s the furthest thing from the truth. Most of us haven’t even scratched the surface.
Most of us haven’t even scratched the surface.
I’m sure that we’ve all thought a time or two, that there has to be more to life than our current situation… and to be honest, there is! But if you’ve ever had that thought, you may be in need of a cleanse – no tea, ACV, or lemons involved – just you consciously deciding to do better for yourself and find your true happiness.
here are 6 steps to get you there
My Intentional Morning
I am extremely committed to my morning self-care routine. Don’t get me wrong, my nighttime regimen helps me to relax, unwind, and release the stresses of the day; but what I do with the start of my day is what sets the tone for everything that follows. It’s my time to focus my intentions and to prepare for the day ahead.
I’m not a person who eagerly jumps out of bed without an alarm clock in the morning. In fact, I don’t care for waking up early, but I’ve found that I’m more focused and calm, in the hours of the day before the sun rises. There’s something special about the quiet of the morning when it feels like you’re the only person awake… that’s empowering.
Here’s how I make the most of my mornings, and you can too!