I’m a self-care advocate. I try to practice self-care (in one way or another) every day. In a time when hustlin’ until the wheels fall off is championed and being a workaholic is often deemed the way to success, I believe in taking care of self, first. But let’s be honest, most of the time self-care finds itself penciled in… at the bottom of your to-do list. Sound familiar?
The idea of being present in the moment and intentionally enjoying your life sounds good, right? The picture-perfect vision of you being focused on your goals, manifesting your dream life, and constantly improving… is how we all envision the ideal scenario for our lives. While it’s clear that it’s the most beneficial way to live, many of us still struggle with finding our way.
Sometimes what’s holding you back from the life you desire is something you will never be able to change… the past.
The 6 Step Mental Detox
Life is busy. Overwhelming even… sometimes to the point that we can find ourselves so intertwined with responsibilities, appointments, housework, and bills – that we start to lose our own identity. We begin to believe that we are currently experiencing the sum total of what life has to offer, and that’s the furthest thing from the truth. Most of us haven’t even scratched the surface.
Most of us haven’t even scratched the surface.
I’m sure that we’ve all thought a time or two, that there has to be more to life than our current situation… and to be honest, there is! But if you’ve ever had that thought, you may be in need of a cleanse – no tea, ACV, or lemons involved – just you consciously deciding to do better for yourself and find your true happiness.
here are 6 steps to get you there
My Intentional Morning
I am extremely committed to my morning self-care routine. Don’t get me wrong, my nighttime regimen helps me to relax, unwind, and release the stresses of the day; but what I do with the start of my day is what sets the tone for everything that follows. It’s my time to focus my intentions and to prepare for the day ahead.
I’m not a person who eagerly jumps out of bed without an alarm clock in the morning. In fact, I don’t care for waking up early, but I’ve found that I’m more focused and calm, in the hours of the day before the sun rises. There’s something special about the quiet of the morning when it feels like you’re the only person awake… that’s empowering.
Here’s how I make the most of my mornings, and you can too!
You’ve always had a plan. You knew that it would all work out, just the way you envisioned… until it didn’t.
You may not have been obsessive about the details, but you at least had an idea of what career you wanted, the type of house you envisioned living in and an approximate date for when you thought you’d be married or have children… and even where you wanted to be at this point in your life. You had a general outline… right? A map of sorts, that you planned to navigate right to your end destination. That is until everything fell apart and you had no idea how you deviated so far off course.
That was 2008, in a nutshell for me. I started the year on cloud 9. My real estate business was booming. I was earning great money. I had a gorgeous home and I had just launched my 1st publication. The stars and the heavens seemed to be aligning perfectly.
I had goals.
I felt like my journey was leading me straight towards my dream life.
And then, everything fell apart.
As I write this, I am secluded to my bed, sick with flu-like symptoms. I’ve been in the same spot for four days now; and to be honest, I’m completely over it! But, I must admit, this time of quiet (and misery) has given me the opportunity to reflect and think through how I currently take care of myself and the importance of self-care.
Before this little ‘bug’ snuck up on me, I was crushing my to-do list. I was making great strides in my business and I had finally found my momentum. All that changed in an instant. One minute, I was having lunch with my husband and the next, I had a sore and tightening throat. That uncomfortable sore throat quickly became a full-blown illness. It included the works – from body aches and congestion to a mild cough and complete exhaustion. My eyes itched and I had a pressure headache that nothing seemed to help. I was so overwhelmed with symptoms that I wasn’t getting any rest and thinking clearly was out of the question. I had been knee-deep in work and I hadn’t left the house in days, so I had no idea how I found myself this sick so quickly.