I have a confession to make. I was future-focused for far too long. It took some serious introspection to realize that I was draining all of the fun, happiness, and peace of mind out of my own life. I knew from a young age that my purpose in life was to help others discover, embrace and live in complete freedom. And I operated on the same principles, always working towards spiritual, financial and time freedom. I had a clear picture of my ideal life and I was laser focused on it.
I’m often asked ‘how did you discover your purpose in life?’ or ‘how did you know what you were passionate about?’ and I remember asking others this exact same question. I would watch other women and wonder how they knew what they were supposed to be doing… not even knowing if they actually knew or not.
But like most things, this was a journey that I had to take on my own. This lesson wasn’t learned from good advice or an epiphany moment because someone said something that resonated with me. The truth is that as I began to understand just how purpose and passion work together, everything started to make sense.
In my early 20’s, I worked strictly to earn a living. I worked too many jobs to name, trying to find my way… but I never did. I couldn’t see myself moving up in any of the companies that I worked for and honestly, I didn’t have the desire to. There was something lacking. And although my primary objective (at that time) was a paycheck, I still had a burning desire to actually enjoy the work I was doing.
I knew that if I failed I wouldn’t regret that, but I knew the one thing I might regret is not trying.
– Jeff Bezos, Amazon CEO
This is a statement that I live by. I believe that life is far too short to waste time, months, years… on doing something that you don’t love, enjoy, or aren’t passionate about. We often see work as a means to an end. We need money to survive, provide, and take care of our responsibilities; but it’s also important that we make doing work that is fulfilling to our souls, a priority as well. Some of us will find that fulfillment in identifying industries that allow us to express our creativity or pursue our passions; while others will create viable businesses that allow us to chart our own path.
I realize that not everyone is an aspiring entrepreneur, but we should acknowledge that we all have skills, expertise, and abilities that could create a successful business. And with an unpredictable job market, it’s important, now more than ever, to have multiple streams of income.
I love affirmations. If you follow this blog, then you may already know, that I believe in the power of words and the impact that positive speaking can have on your life. One of the secrets to effective use of affirmations is to make them a part of your daily routine. They will help to shift your mindset and also act as reminders of your worth, your abilities and your goals; like little prompts to ensure that you make the most of every day.
A vision board is the modern-day necessity for visualization and manifestation, in large part due to the movie “The Secret”. If by chance, you haven’t seen the movie, let me explain what a vision board is. It’s simply a collection of pictures you’ve collected, as inspiration and as a representation of the life that you want to live.
Here’s how it works:
You find pictures in magazines, on Pinterest and anywhere else that has a collection of images that match the vision that you have for your future. You then attach them to a poster board, cork board or designated wall space. For example, if your looking to upgrade your car or house, you may want to have photos of your dream home or a new luxury SUV on your board. If you want to live a healthier lifestyle, you would include pictures of healthy food and people with the body type that you are striving for. Or if your goal is to earn a specific amount of money, you would have a picture representing that number (i.e.: a faux check made out to you for one million dollars).
There is often a negative opinion of both money and relationships. This is probably due to the countless reports of money being a leading cause of divorce. But there’s a flip side. If you’re willing to have an open line of communication and are able to make financial decisions together, then money doesn’t have to be a negative topic of discussion. In fact, it could actually bring you and your significant other closer together.
If you’re new to your relationship or you’ve had a bad experience, with discussing money issues, in the past, you may be wondering when is the right time to have the dreaded money talk. Don’t stress about this and don’t rush it! Every relationship is different and there is no right or wrong time. Just be sure that you are in a serious committed relationship, where sharing finances and resources, is something that you’re starting to engage in – there’s no need to expose your most personal information, if it’s not warranted.
No couple moves at the same pace as another. But when the time is right for you, it is important that you are able to have an honest and respectful dialogue. Keep reading, for my top tips on how to have a great conversation on money; one that brings you closer together.
The first month of 2017 is almost over, and the signs of a new year are all around us. Lattes are replaced with green smoothies, early morning exercise classes are full to capacity and the comfort food of the holidays, has been replaced with fish, salad and fruit-infused water.
But let’s address new year’s resolutions. Although, I now lean more towards ongoing goal setting over that jolt that most get, to make change at the first of the year. My reasoning? I prefer ongoing progress to temporary optimism and hard-to-maintain resolve.
If you’re consistently making progress, there’s no need to succumb to the thinking that January is magical and that anything you start at the first of the year, will surely be a success. You’re not going to lose the weight any differently or pay off debt any quicker, because you waited for the new year.