At some point or another, life is going to seem unfair and unkind. You’ll experience marvelous highs and epic lows, but sometimes the most devastating moments are those that force us into a state of grief. Moments of profound loss have the ability to shake us to our core and leave us lost and confused about life.
But we don’t have to sit back and let life happen to us. Devastation can overwhelm us or it can show us how strong and resilient we are. Here are a few tips to help you through this tough time.
give yourself permission to grieve
Whether you’ve lost a loved one, had a relationship breakdown, or are going through the hardest time of your life, it’s important to give yourself permission to grieve. Bottling up emotions isn’t healthy for your mental or physical health. Allow yourself time to process what is happening. Shut out the world for a little while and take some time to see that even though life as you knew it has just changed, it’s not the end of the world.Bottling up emotions isn’t healthy for your mental or physical health. Allow yourself time to process what is happening. Click To Tweet
try something new
Sometimes the easiest thing to do is to get back into your normal routine. But doing so may actually prolong your grief. While some things are unavoidable such as your family, career, and financial responsibilities; make it a point to try new things. It will help to keep you moving forward.
Perhaps you have a bucket list. Why not start that list. Stary having new experiences and try and turn your loss into something that makes you stronger.
remember… you are not alone
As hard as it is to imagine right now, you’re not alone in your sadness. While each situation is different, sometimes it helps to remember that there are other people around the world that have been in similar situations and made it through as a stronger person. Find comfort in the fact that others have rebounded and found great success after similar setbacks. You may be able to find support groups that can help you through your difficult time.
do something nice for yourself
You may not feel like doing much and most of life may seem unimportant at the moment but it’s important to do something nice for yourself. Make an appointment to get your hair done, get a pedicure, take a long bath, read a book, or order your favorite take out! You’ll be amazed at how different you feel after giving yourself some love and a little TLC.
spend time with your loved ones
Sometimes the only thing you need in life is people around you that love and care for you – so do that! Surround yourself with people that are supportive of your situation, with those that can help distract you from your problems, and people that make you laugh. They say that the best medicine in life is laughter, so spend time with people that you love and allow your heart and soul to recover.
Finding that motivation to dust yourself off after something bad has happened can be difficult. In these moments, it’s important to find someone that inspires you to help you pull yourself out of this funk. Whether that be your spiritual leader, a relative, or an iconic figure like Oprah, Sarah Jakes, Michelle Obama, or Cynthia Telles, it’s important that you have inspiration all around you.
become a better YOU
Finally, while this sounds like a difficult thing to do instantly, consciously making decisions to become a better version of yourself can help you move on from your loss. Donate to a charity. Speak out for those who can’t be heard. Volunteer your time with a non-profit. Forgive those who have wronged you, and try and adopt a different outlook on life. It might be difficult to find the motivation to begin but trust that there is healing in pursuing your best self.
A loss in life, no matter how big or small can have devastating effects on your life. Remember that if you’re struggling with your mental health that it’s imperative to visit your Doctor to talk about your problems as they can help point you in the right direction for recovery.