Your relationship, your finances, and your current life situation don’t define you… unless you let it. If you spend time, like most of us, scrolling through social media, you probably (unknowingly) compare your life to those fabulous pictures and videos that are constantly updating on your feed. Over time, though, this can start to deeply affect how you see yourself.
We’ve all been there. It’s the quiet moments when we question our own potential or wonder why others appear to be doing so much better than we are. These thoughts aren’t just by chance. They’re the result of comparing yourself to others.
The problem with unintentional comparison is that it can eat away at your confidence and hold you back from achieving your goals.
It’s time to stop chipping away at how you see yourself and to start relearning how to truly love yourself and hone in on your own potential. And while you may not see results overnight, here are a few tips to help you stop comparing yourself to others and start enjoying your life!
fall in love with you
Sometimes we compare ourselves to others because we lose sight of who we are and what we really want out of life. When we’re overly exposed to the wins and successes of others, we start to question our own path in life. However, developing a healthy relationship with yourself will help to counter negative thinking. As you learn to love yourself again, you will also begin to realize your self-worth and the fullness of who you are.
The simple act of being aware of your thoughts, words, and actions will do wonders for your psyche. As you become more conscious of negative thinking or behaviors that don’t line up with who you want to be, you’ll be empowered to make the necessary changes.
Listen to how you speak to yourself. Take note of moments when you’re wishing you’re someone else or feeling bad about someone else’s successes. When you catch yourself in these moments, course correct – immediately! Instead of telling yourself “I’m so stupid, I should have planned better”, try saying something like “This is a lesson learned. Next time, I’ll be better prepared.”
start where you are
If you spend too much time on FaceBook or Instagram, it’s not hard to understand why you put such heavy demands on yourself. If you allow social media to tell the story, it appears that everyone else’s life is ‘goals’. From owning a home, earning six figures or even having a baby, everything looks glamorous on social media.
Heck, if you documented everything, it’s possible that your life would be goals for someone else too. But it’s also important to know that most people don’t chronicle the entire process. And most often we’re looking at the highlight reel.
Don’t be so hard on yourself.
Start where you are. If you want to purchase a home in the next year, start the process. Find a good real estate agent, get pre-approved for a mortgage, and start looking at homes for sale. Throughout the process, remind yourself that this is your life and your journey. And that every step you take is a step towards your own achievements.