We’re women, mothers, daughters, sisters, wives, and friends. We’re usually the glue that holds our families together. But most of all we make sure that needs are met and that everyone is happy and taken care of.
While we juggle countless responsibilities daily and prove that we are the ultimate problem solvers, how often do we think about what’s best for us in the process of caring for everyone else? We can be selfless to a fault. Make sure that you’re taking time to practice self-care and think about the woman you’re becoming.
Here are 3 tips to not forgetting about you in the midst of being everything for everyone else.
You make it a priority to be present for everyone else, now it’s time to show up for yourself.
- When’s the last time you sat and meditated on what you wanted to do next with your life?
- How often do you get away to just spend time doing things that you enjoy?
- Do you even remember what you like to do for fun?
You’ll be amazed how many women lose themselves in their careers, marriages, or parenting. Don’t get so far away from the core of who you are that you find yourself just going through the motions every day. This doesn’t mean that you have to go on an Eat, Pray, Love sabbatical. It simply means that you start putting yourself first.
Take the class you’ve been wanting to take.
- Join the local gym.
- Start cooking more.
- Make plans to travel this year.
Start small. Whatever it is that you enjoy, start figuring out ways to infuse it into your life. And before you think of all the reasons you can’t add anything else to your plate, I want you to think of your amazing ability to always make things work. The only difference is that this time you’re doing something for you!
Don’t get so busy with your responsibilities that you forget your own peace-of-mind. Create feel-good habits that give you a way to release stress and find your zen. This is not a one-size-fits-all concept. And it’s important that you don’t just adopt suggestions from other people. What brings one person peace and tranquility can be meaningless for someone else.
Here are a few suggestions to get you started:
- Read books that you enjoy.
- Take a walk in the evening.
- Wake up 30 minutes earlier so that you’re not rushed and agitated in the morning.
- Cook a meal from scratch (yes, this is actually a stress reliever for some).
- A few times a week take a relaxing bath.
- Try out a yoga or spin class.
- Start journaling.
- Spend alone time in meditation.
This is just a jump-off point. ‘Your thing’ may not be on this list. What’s important though is that you try different things to discover what’s a good fit for you.
be a planner
Sometimes it can take everything we’ve got just to get through one day of the week. But we still have to make sure that we are planning for our future. Whether that’s planning our next home purchase, saving for large purchases, or even estate planning, we can’t put off making plans for our future selves.
Time will pass whether you do anything with it or not. Make sure that you’re on track with where you want to be. Twice a year, do a self-check. See where you are with your goals. Refocus energy and effort to areas where you may have dropped the ball and assess where you are on your bucket list.