Every new year presents us with a clean slate… a new opportunity to take stock of our lives and explore where we’re on the right track and which parts of our lives still need a little work or even a complete overhaul. Sadly, some women don’t take advantage of this time to do introspective work. The in-depth self-exploration that helps realign our thoughts, words, and behaviors with our goals and dreams.

Instead, most of us set unrealistic goals and resolutions without doing the inner work to determine what is really needed for us to be successful and fulfilled in the new year. Setting a goal to lose weight or make more money are only half-hearted declarations for your life. You deserve more.


If you’re really looking to improve yourself in 2018, here are a few areas to consider. 


Forgive someone

Last year when your mom told you to “get over yourself” it may have hurt your feelings – but it’s not anything you should be holding on to. When you give yourself permission to let go of negative feelings you free yourself from the pain of that memory.

All painful events aren’t completely unforgivable. Don’t carry around that emotional weight. Let it go and give yourself the gift of peace of mind in the new year. 

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Try something new

How many times have you said that you wanted to do something different? Maybe a hot yoga class or learning a new language… or even traveling more. Well, guess what? Actions speak louder than words.

Take a chance.

Do it without thinking too long and hard about it. Enroll in that class, book a flight, go out to eat alone. Put your thoughts and dreams into motion and action, and start creating a life you love – one step at a time.

Tip: If you feel as if you’re tight on time, take an online course or workshop. Don’t know where to look? Check out udemy.com, teachable.com, CSUSM-EL and Alison (this one offers free courses).

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Stop getting a late start

Don’t go another year rushing around in the morning… agitated before you even get off to a good start. Decide to create a morning routine that helps you take control of your day and start setting the tone for your life. Learn to enjoy your mornings and take advantage of this time of solitude to practice self-care.

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Know what’s going on

We live in a climate where it’s easy to find yourself confused about what’s authentic news and what’s manipulative dialogue. It’s up to you to stay informed on current events. Know what’s happening in your city and the world around you. Watch the news and scroll reputable news sites.

In this day and age of flighty social media news headlines, you need to give yourself the power of knowledge. You’ll set yourself apart. Don’t be surprised when you’re one of the most informed people in the room.

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Release the toxins

Not from the body… but from your life. From the friend that makes you feel bad at every turn for not returning her phone calls immediately to the bestie that never quite seems happy for you. There are people that can drain your energy and make no deposits in return.

You may feel conflicted about letting people go that overwhelm or discourage you. After all, you’ve formed relationships with them and they’re familiar to you. But to elevate your life you have to eliminate people, things, and situations that weigh you down.

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Stay in touch

Each year it seems that time passes faster and faster. Make sure that you are intentional about staying in touch with your loved one. This doesn’t mean that you have to get stuck in a 3-hour conversation with your sister about who’s dating who and why she doesn’t want to do Valentine’s day alone again this year. But it does mean that you make your family and close friends a priority and that you invest in growing and maintaining your relationships.


Trust that it’s all in alignment

Don’t beat yourself up about what you didn’t accomplish last year. So what you didn’t take that international trip you really wanted to take or that you didn’t land your dream job or start that business. One thing that we absolutely cannot change is the past – so don’t let it haunt you.

It’s potential has expired and all that we have to work with now is the present.

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Even if you’re not exactly where you envisioned yourself being at this point in life, trust the process. This is your journey. Noone ever said that it would be an easy 2 lane road with no traffic. It’s more like a long hike up rough terrain in chaotic weather… with beautiful views along the way.

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