I was a creative child. If you had asked me who I wanted to be when I grew up, my answer would have been a best-selling author and poet. I wanted to live in Greenwich Village and attend NYU (New York University) to study movie production and theatre arts.

I’ve always been a free thinker with goals and ambitions. While some of those aspirations gotten a little muddled over the ears… because, well, life. I realize now, that even then as a young girl, my true goal in life was to find happiness.

I’ve learned that happiness is as much a choice – a mental state of being – as it is action.

You have to intentionally choose happiness – but you also have to do the work to clear the path for a happy state of being.

Confused?

Don’t be. It’s not as deep as it sounds. But there are a few things that you want to explore to make sure that there’s nothing keeping you from being truly happy.


Unrealistic Expectations

It’s okay to have strong personal beliefs and high expectations for yourself and others. It’s when there’s no flexibility, no accounting for the many things that could go wrong… or differently than you thought they would, that you’ll find yourself disappointed. Again and again.

One of the most important lessons you’ll learn in life is that you don’t always get back what you put out into the world – at least not the way you may have expected. Meaning, karma is a very real thing; but, just because you were kind to someone, doesn’t mean that that same person will be kind to you in return. It may be that someone else will extend kindness to you, or that you will be rewarded or recognized for your positive impact on others.

You can’t control how what you put out into the universe returns to you.

You can only accept your part in creating good energy, spreading love, and operating in forgiveness. Letting go of rigid expectations, realizing that life is not always predictable or well planned, and instead, deciding to go with the flow will free you from unnecessary feelings of disappointment or regret. 

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Focusing On The Past

Do we need a recap you of what happened to Lot’s wife when she looked back? If you don’t know the bible story, she turned to salt. And while of course, that won’t happen to you if you stay focused on the past, you will hold yourself back from countless opportunities and from finding happiness.

There are lessons to be learned in life.

We all make mistakes and poor choices, or have traumatic experiences that leave scars and cause us immense pain. There’s no discounting the fact that life can throw some pretty good blows at you. But, once the lesson has been learned or you’ve given yourself time to heal – you have to move on.

Nothing good will ever come from you wallowing in guilt or grief, or constantly thinking about how you could have done something differently.

We cannot change the past and the future isn’t promised. The only gift we are given is today. 

Choose happiness. Make a decision to no longer allow your life to drift in the impossibility of what could have been. Be present, right now and make the most of your happiness.

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Putting Others First

We make many sacrifices in life. Sacrifices may not always bring us happiness, but our happiness shouldn’t be at the expense of others either.  If you’re a giving and selfless person, it can be easy to sacrifice your happiness for the ones you love. Be careful.

You can’t get water from an empty well.

When you don’t take the time to care for yourself first, you risk complete depletion – which can leave you both physically and mentally exhausted. Set boundaries. Put your own well-being first. Remember, you need support too. 

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Jealousy

It’s understandable to feel a little envy when you see an Instagram pic of someone you know traveling the world, buying a new home, or just enjoying life in a way that you envisioned for yourself. When we see others accomplish goals that we had for ourselves, it can sting a little. But it’s important to understand why you are having these feelings.

  • Are there things that you would like to do differently in life?
  • Is there something that you feel like you’re missing out on?
  • Do you need to start operating in gratitude for who you are and what you have right now?

Get to the root cause of your jealousy. It’s often not about the person these feelings are directed at. You may need to do a heart check and find out what’s off within yourself, to really understand why you feel the way you do. Maybe it’s not jealousy at all… maybe it’s a gentle reminder that it’s time to add a little excitement to your life.

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Procrastination

If you’ve become a master of procrastination, it can be a difficult habit to break. But you’ll never get anywhere in life if you keep putting off everything. We often validate our inaction with excuses as to why we couldn’t get something done… when the ultimate truth is often that we just kept putting it off.

Stop telling yourself that you’ll do it tomorrow or later. Later never comes or it comes with the price of missed opportunities.

For example: If you want to make a move to a new city… what are you doing about it? Have you researched homes for sale? Have you looked into the local job market or transfer with your current employer?

If you keep putting off the action that needs to accompany your dreams, you’ll never achieve them. In this situation, take some time to research the real estate market – of the area you’ve had your eye on. Look on realtor.com, zillow.com or Flag Staff Real Estate. Why? Because, no matter what your goals are, the more you expose yourself to the possibility of your dream being fulfilled, the more aligned your actions will become with making it your reality.

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