First dates can be both nerve-wracking and exciting. You may have been crushing on someone for awhile now, or you may have stumbled across his profile page on dating apps such as Tinder or Match.com. But we all want our first encounter with someone new to go well.
Even if there’s no connection, you want that first meeting to go as smooth as possible. But this is also a time to be on high alert. Pay attention to his appearance, his behaviors, and most importantly what he has to say. We often overlook cues about someone’s personality because we’re caught up in the excitement of being with someone new… but there are a few things that he absolutely should not say on the first date.
“I didn’t have time to change”
In this day and age courtship is lost on quick meetups and casual encounters – don’t lower your standard if you’re looking for someone that values and matches your effort.
You have possibly spent hours getting ready for the date. Because, first impressions count, right? From the right makeup to picking the perfect dress, heels and maybe even those handmade pearl earrings you got for Christmas.
So it’s no surprise that when you arrive at the restaurant you’re expecting him to have made a little effort in his appearance as well. But, if the first thing he does is apologize for how he looks, and he looks like he put forth no effort, take it as a sign. He should want to make a strong first impression and it should be important enough for him to set aside time to present his best self. To be fair, he may have a valid excuse, but if not, take note.
Sidenote: We’re not at all saying that you should solely focus on his appearance, but his physical characteristics appearance and presenting your best self… are completely different things.
“How much did that cost?”
“How many children do you want to have?”
“Did you bring protection?”
A first date is not a precursor to sex – no matter how many primetime tv shoes tell us otherwise. At the end of the night, it’s best to say goodbye and make arrangements for your next date. Don’t do anything that you might regret later… and don’t leave the wrong impression.
If he’s keen on getting you back to his place, be firm in your response. If you’re not interested, say ‘no.’ Don’t hesitate. Trust that if he has any respect for you, he will value your decision. If you’re honest with yourself, you’ll be honest with the fact that you don’t know anything about the guy. And while he may be a perfectly nice guy, on the other hand, he may not. You need to stay safe on your date, and if you feel in any way uncomfortable, make an early exit.