Girl, motivate yourself!

A few weeks ago, I was feeling a little out of sorts. Let’s be honest, I was all over the place – busy ‘doing’ things – but with no true rhyme or reason, other than to fulfill an immediate need. You know that “let me get this done because I’m on deadline” attitude… I had it.

I desperately needed to get back on track. But I couldn’t seem to pull it together.

So, I did what most of us do, I started looking for external motivation – watching YouTube videos, reading books from those well-tailored book lists, trolling my favorite Instagrammers InstaStories and Lives – turned out to be a major #fail.

None of what I was doing was dealing with the root cause – I needed to motivate my damn self.


I wanted someone else to give me a reboot when, in reality, I was perfectly capable of doing it myself. I just needed to do things a little different… and it worked.


I started with two simple changes.

I began setting my intentions the night before.

That’s right, I had a full-on mental pep talk with self every night; where I literally told myself exactly what I was going to accomplish the next day and how I was going to feel about it. It was like meal prep for your soul, I woke up feeling prepared, in control and ready!

Then, I immediately stopped seeking outside motivation.

My father taught me to think about things as if everything depended on me. “What would you do if I wasn’t here”, he would say… or “what would you do if you didn’t have that resource”. Because of what he taught me, I became an amazing problem solver.

My father taught me to think about things as if everything depended on me. “What would you do if I wasn’t here”, he would say… Click To Tweet

However, over time even the best life lessons can get away from you, right? As a result of leaning on others for motivating words and inspiration, I lost my own drive to just figure shit out.  But I took the time to get back in touch with makes me tick and keeps me motivated and shed my dependency on others.


My challenge to you is to recognize when you’re seeking out that extra push from someone other than you, ask yourself:

“What would I do if that person didn’t exist.”